Wainford Vignettes

An address on the life of Alice Harrison given by her son Mike at her funeral at the church of St Nicholas within Compton, Surrey, on 18 December 1995

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Below  you will find a series of vignettes written by Winifred McHenry (nee Wainford).  The individuals here descend from George Wainford (1813-1889) and Mary Anne Bush (1818-1892). Click on the name to jump to the story, or scroll down to browse them all.


INDEX



A. George Wainford 1868-1938

B. Alice Anne Wainford (nιe Dowling) 1871-1942

C. Annie Wainford 1864-1946

D. George Wainford 1897-1993

E. Winifred Wainford (nιe Powell) 1900-1932

F. George Wainford Junior 1940-1979

G. Alice Harrison (nιe Wainford) 1905-1995

H. Violet Boughton (nιe Wainford) 1909-1991

I. Arthur Wainford born 5th December 1912

J. Ted McHenry 1925-1995

 

 

A.

GEORGE WAINFORD
1868-1938


Postman and Regular Soldier also an Army Reservist

My Grandad: notes by Winifred McHenry, 2000.

 

Quiet man, soldierly bearing. Hobbies: he bred Scots collie dogs, from home – neighbours and friends bought the pups. He enjoyed gardening and in addition had an allotment where he grew his vegetables and a few flowers for picking. Here he used to sit in his 'lean-to' and enjoy "a smoke".

When he and Grandma moved to a larger house in Bengeo, Hertfordshire from the cottage in Duncombe Road, he kept birds (canaries and budgies) in a large aviary at the bottom of the garden.

He was tidy and meticulous in his work, and as a local housing officer he collected the rents, and I watched him counting up and entering the figures in his books – he had a very neat hand in writing 'copperplate', as was taught in those days.

When he retired his birds and garden were his great interests.

He suffered from bouts of malaria as a result of his army service in Africa and he shivered so much and felt so ill; my Grandma told me that to keep warm when he was like this, he once put the feather mattress on top of the bed!

He also enjoyed his cup of tea with 'condensed milk' only, and Grandma had to make his curries strong; two items from his time as a soldier.

He died after a prolonged illness – lung cancer, but as a little girl living with my grandparents I can say that he was uncomplaining. He had a great dignity.

(Another memory, when we lived in the cottage he was always up first at 6.00 a.m. to make the tea and polish up the steel fender in front of the kitchen range, and the one brass water tap.)

Children: George, Alice, Vi and Arthur.


Research by Windsor Ancestry Research on the Army service of George Wainford

A considerable amount of material on George Wainford's Army service has already been obtained by the family but we sought the "Soldiers' Documents" file for him, in case it provided extra facts on his career. His file was found in WO/6141 and, although incomplete, it clarifies some points and confirms others.

George Wainford joined at Hounslow on 12th May 1885 committing himself, in broad terms, to a total of 12 years service, of which at least seven would be full-time with the regiment and the remainder in the Army Reserve. The terms however, were complex, to cover emergency situations and heavily weighted in favour of the army's needs. George Wainford was indeed on the Reserve by the time that the Boer War broke out in 1899, but was recalled to the regiment.
His time spent in the "East Indies" would have been in the Indian sub-continent (since 1947 divided between India and Pakistan, and later Bangladesh), Burma, or territories such as Aden normally administered from India, because the term "East India" covered all of these. By checking WO73/35, 37, 39, 41, 43 and 45 (Locations of the British Army 1887-92) it can be seen that, as part of the 1st Battalion, Royal Fusiliers ("City of London Regiment"), he should have been in the Bombay area from December 1887 until early 1891, although he may have been on detachment at times. Then the battalion was placed under the "Bengal" Military Command which covered a vast swath of North India. The documents in WO97/6141 imply that for the most part of his remaining time in the sub-continent, up to 20th February 1893, George Wainford was at Quetta (which is now in Pakistan on the arid W Frontier).

As to his movements during the Boer War, he would have gone out after the main body of the 2nd Battalion of his regiment had left. They had arrived in Cape Town in November 1899, but he would have been delayed by the necessary re-kitting and perhaps special training for the unusual conditions in South Africa. Their major engagements would have occurred before George's arrival, but many actions involving small numbers were still to be fought.

It seemed likely that when he got to the battalion, it was near Kimberley, the diamond-mining town. On 5th May 1900 it attacked the Boers at Rooidam, west of the Kimberley-Warrenton line, and defeated them. This had a beneficial effect on operations nearby as it allowed a British column to break through the Boer positions at Mafeking and end the famous siege of that town on 17th May.

The battalion were then directed towards the Johannesburg area of the Transvaal, but were diverted to the more easterly region of that Boer republic. On arrival, they were sent to serve under Colonel Mahon to the east of Pretoria. In July, the battalion was located at Bronkhorst Spruit, where presumably George left them to return to England.

The Royal Fusiliers Medal Roll (WO100/321) for the Queen's South Africa Medal is on film. It was damaged and very faint, so that, unfortunately, no listing for George Wainford could be detected.


 

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B.

ALICE ANNE WAINFORD
(nιe Dowling)
1871-1942

My Grandma: notes by Winifred McHenry, 2000.

I went to live with Grandma and 'Grandad' when my mother died in 1932.

Grandma was a Victorian through and through. I was brought up with this as my way of life. She was undemonstrative, but in spite of this I was happy during the years I lived with her. She did not allow me to cry if I hurt myself and I couldn't understand other little girls who made a fuss. She was kind in a distant way and did all she could for a motherless child.

Grandma, as I have since heard from my uncle and aunt and which I have deduced, was a good mother but had yearnings to get out in the world. She loved to be doing things that were not domestic. She was a Secretary to the local Cooperative Wholesale Society Women's Guild and very involved in their activities. Also she was on the local hospital committee – Hertford County Hospital and was thought much of. On her death a letter of thanks for her services to the hospital was sent to the family.

When I first went to live with her, she kept chickens in the little garden at the back of the cottage – and I used to try to play schools with them but they wouldn't keep still!!

Her involvement with the Guild brought me into the "Children's Circle" which was an offshoot of the Guild and we had outings and treats which she helped with although she did not come with us. She was not a very maternal woman.

My Uncle Arthur said she was "before her time", a kind of "feminist" of her time – and not very domesticated although her upbringing was that a home should be kept clean and tidy – I know she insisted that I took part in dusting and was very careful I missed nothing.

She was very fond of Grandad's dogs but I don't remember her ever taking them out on long walks. I did instead and walked miles with Grandad.

Grandma was always very concerned about her sons (my Dad and Uncle) and daughters (my Aunts) in their adulthood. I remember her going frequently to see Aunt Alice and her family. She was the one my Dad went to in his bereavement after my mother died. She was there for all of them but she never did kiss or hug any of them – she was very cool. Her help was in her actions and her compassionate nature. When my Grandad died she went to live with her younger daughter and husband and son Richard – this was another occasion when I went to live with them all during the war. She continued her interests in her later years and died of a heart attack in 1942.

My Grandma had a great influence on me and laid the foundations of my philosophy of life. She it was who saw my inclination at the age of six to music, and arranged for me to have lessons. I have reasons to be profoundly grateful to this very straightforward, honest and strong woman.

Children: George, Alice, Vi and Arthur.
There is some unconfirmed family supposition that there were babies between George (born 1897) and Alice (born 1905) – maybe stillborn or miscarriages.



 

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C.

ANNIE WAINFORD
1864-1946

My Great Aunt Annie, Grandad's sister: notes by Winifred McHenry, 2000.

First memory – Aunt Annie coming to Bengeo to stay at Duncombe Road, Bengeo, Hertfordshire. I shared a bedroom (when she stayed) with her – she was always dressed in black as I recall with lace on her dress collar and always a black velvet band round her neck from which hung a pendant – garnet or ruby stone surrounded by brilliants/diamonds – it was so pretty and I loved the glint of this 'jewel' at her throat. She had thin grey hair which she wore in a bun, and I believe rimless spectacles. Her clothes were worn nearly ankle length. She had very tender skin (used 'Palmolive Soap') and wore black stockings which fascinated me as they were made with a separate part for the big toe – obviously trouble with her feet also.

A very neat lady and very much the 'maiden lady'. I believe she had been a lady's companion for a long time at Esher in Surrey. She travelled across London alone, visiting family and friends, and it didn't trouble her at all. She was admired by the family for this – an independent soul.

Another very clear memory of her is that when George Wainford junior was born in 1940 she came to Gravesend from Tilbury to help my Dad and myself in the house. I was 13 when my half brother was born and between us we kept the work in the house done. She washed and ironed beautifully, her training no doubt in service. She was a quiet lady and that is my memory of her.
Aunt Annie lived in Tilbury at this time and died there at the age of 81 years.

Arthur, aged 8 or 9, was taken to see Aunt Annie in Bloomsbury worked for a family called Lumley. Annie was housekeeper and companion to Mrs. Lumley. He was invited to read comics. Arthur saw them in a cupboard. He asked why she had them. She did not answer directly. The assumption is that her son was living there. Annie used to go away with the Lumleys.

 

 

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D.

GEORGE WAINFORD
1897-1993


My Father: notes by Winifred McHenry, 2000.


My Dad was a worrier – an anxious man – he, I believe, suffered insecurity all during his long life apart from his few very happy years with my mother. They were married for only eight years when she died of T.B. in 1932.

Dad was a bright clever little boy and his father (my Grandfather) thought that as there was little good employment when he left school, he would benefit by going to a Royal Navy Training School at the age of 13. This he did, a home-loving boy, sent away from his quiet home with his Mum and Dad and the dogs in the country. He survived this parting but this affected him all his life, added to which his horrific experiences during the Great War in the Royal Navy.

He met my mother, a gentle girl, after the war when he was so happy and contented.

He had a quirky sense of humour, usually I must say, directed to others in practical jokes!

He was apparently a good dancer and this is how he met my mother.

Her death at 32 devastated him and he was on the edge of a nervous breakdown. He had found happiness with her and it was so short lived. He battled on, living in lodgings in London in his job as a Customs Officer.

Four years later he met Sarah Sutton and married her.

Sadly this was not a happy marriage. He sought to re-create a happy home but it didn't work. They had two sons. The eldest, George, died in tragic circumstances. I went live with them twice. Once when I was a schoolgirl and later when I was working, before I married.

I witnessed much unhappiness in their marriage, however there were times when they 'got on' but it wasn't an easy relationship.

Dad was a pessimist and sadly this coloured his whole life – he always expected the worst and, to some extent, it was true of his life.

He worried about me in my early life that I would contract T.B. like my mother – he worried about what I would do when I left school, he worried about his sons in later life. I believe this state of mind was due to the circumstances in his early years.

He, like his father, was very careful and neat in his financial affairs. He knew where every penny went and he dreaded being retired and on a pension.

He did well in the Royal Navy and in the 'Customs'. He was a good officer but he still worried.

During the war he cycled to work at the Customs House in Gravesend and across to Tilbury. He would keep a 'lookout' with his 'tin hat' on when we were down in the cellar during air raids – he had to be active and I do not remember him every taking shelter.

In his old age Peter, his surviving son, lived nearby and visited him in his sheltered housing. Dad missed George a lot but Peter did make up for this loss. Dad depended on Peter totally.

My eldest son Brian and his wife Liz would take him out on outings in their car which he thoroughly enjoyed and he would be brought to London by Brian at Easter, Christmas and family reunions. He enjoyed these celebrations.

These were good times for him and he loved being with his grandsons and great grandsons. After an eventful life he died after a short illness at the age of 96.


Address at George's Crematorium Service, 2nd March 1993

Brian McHenry, George's grandson, read this address, written by his father, who died himself less than three years later.

"Let us now praise famous men, and our fathers that begat us".

We meet today at the funeral service of George Wainford who died on February 21st (1993) at the great age of 95.

Many of you here present knew him in many different ways, as a brother, a parent, an uncle, a grandparent and as a friend. But he outlived most of his contemporaries who could have told you of many other facets of his character.

My mother regards him as a young Victorian boy, growing up in the village of Bengeo, high above Hertford, the county town, with fields and meadows, rivers and marshes, his father's collie dogs and football – always football, a lifelong passion and abiding interest – all present for his delight and joy. It was to this idyllic boyhood that his thoughts turned again and again. It was truly for him a Golden Age. When tragedy struck him and those close to him in later life, he clutched ever closer to himself these dear memories of youth, drawing strength from them as holding abiding virtues and truths.

He left home and joined the Navy League Training School in April 1911 at the age of 13. He proceeded into the Navy 80 years ago last month (February 1913) and by the age of 17 was at sea and at war.

There he met his first stern challenge. HMS ALBEMARLE, overloaded with massive two ton shells, sailed for the Dardanelles, only to meet a ferocious storm, which burst the shells from their mountings, to kill and maim men and almost destroy the ship. With enormous loss and damage ALBEMARLE limped into Belfast where George remembered the generosity of the people – "they were really kind to us".

You will know of George's next brush with destiny – the Battle of Jutland on May 31st 1916. As a torpedoman on the destroyer HMS ONSLAUGHT, he participated in a night attack on the German fleet. He discharged his torpedoes and sank the German battleship POMMERN. Seconds after the German searchlights picked up ONSLAUGHT and shells then hit her. With the Captain dead and the superstructure shot way, ONSLAUGHT made her way back to Leith, whereupon George and his mates played football on the dock alongside their wrecked ship. "We were young" he said later "we just did what young men do".

In 1918 on board the battleship KING GEORGE V he witnessed the surrender of the German fleet at Scarpa Flow – the highpoint of the British Empire – some may say its crowning achievement.

Discharged from the Royal Navy, with disordered action of the heart and a very short-lived pension of 7/6 a week, he was first a postman, cycling through the Hertfordshire lanes he loved and then an established civil servant – an Assistant Preventive Officer, Customs and Excise. He remained with the Customs for 39 years.

His work became his life which sublimated his grief at the early death of his first wife, Winifred, a girl he loved with all his heart and with the intensity of first love.

In the thirties he married Sally, a bright and lively girl who bore him two sons, George, who was to die tragically, and Peter, a Chief Petty Officer in the Merchant Navy who cared for him in later years.

George's lively and acute intelligence was maintained to the end. He did not suffer fools gladly, was equally dismissive of those unable to take a point quickly and of modern English soccer teams, and most of all of those who did not provide the accurate and immediate information which he sought and required.

He was an Englishman, with all the faults and the virtues of the island race.

"Bless and praise we famous men –
Men of little showing –
For their work continueth,
And their work continueth,
Broad and deep continueth,
Great beyond their knowing!"


Article published in 'The London Standard' – 29th May 1986 by Anne de Courcy.
"JUTLAND? A BIT OF A SHAMBLES, RECALLS GEORGE".

SATURDAY is the 70th anniversary of the largest naval battle in the history of the world. On the night of May 31, 1916, the British Grand Fleet and the German High Seas Fleet met in the devastating yet inconclusive Battle of Jutland. George Wainford, an assistant torpedoman who joined the navy at the age of 13 years and 8 months in February, 1913, is one of the few men alive who remembers the battle.

It was a lovely summer's evening as the brand new destroyer HMS Onslaught steamed through the night of May 30 towards the scene of action.

Just about the beginning of the first Dog Watch (4 to 6 p.m.) the following day, they began to hear the distant noise of battle.

"Of course the lads were cheering until we found it was our cruisers getting the worst of it – Beatty's battle cruisers had engaged some heavier German ships.

"Ours had good guns but not the armour. They couldn't stand the punches like the bigger German ships," recalls Wainford.

In quick succession, three of Beatty's battle cruisers had blown up, with the loss of virtually all on board.

"The first real action we saw ourselves was when we came across a German destroyer, the Leda. She was flying a commodore's pennant and hardly moving – she was very badly disabled.

"The trouble was, she still had the German Ensign flying. So you couldn't ignore her. She was still an active enemy.

"There were a couple of German seamen on her, trying to fire the one gun they'd got left. It was hopeless and yet they were still at it.

"I thought to myself 'I hope those blokes don't get killed'. I really felt pity for them. She sank in the end."

After their brush with the Leda, says Wainford, things eased up a bit in the evening. There was time for corned beef sandwiches and a drink.

By now there was a constant noise of gunfire in the distance and the sea was covered with dead fish. "Concussed in the explosions, I suppose."

Suddenly, a squadron of German ships appeared through a distant smokebank. "I believe we'd been proceeding the same way but ahead of them – I think we were all in the vicinity of a German minefield, and they were trying to get away from it.
"The captain of our flotilla said 'Increase speed' and when our flotilla had got a long way ahead of them he made a 180 degree turn and we came back against them.

"Between one and two in the morning I was standing by my torpedo tubes and all of a sudden there was a shout 'Action Stations!' On our port side you could just see some great big battleships – you couldn't see if they were British or German.

"But somebody said 'Fire!' so we fired both our torpedoes and the other destroyers in line fired theirs, and there was a tremendous explosion.

"It was a German pre-Dreadnought battleship, the Pommern. She blew up with all hands.

"Second after she exploded the German searchlights picked us up, and the moment the light caught our bridge shells hit us. I've never seen shooting like it – no searching, just the light striking us then simultaneously, Bang!

"There was a terrific crash forrard, with flames shooting up.

"I went forrard. There was an awful commotion on the bridge. A sub-lieutenant I'd known from the Albermarle was up there and he said 'Keep down out of it – I want some older men.'

"It was a bit of a shambles" says George: the first lieutenant, a warrant officer, the coxswain, a petty officer and some ratings had been killed and so had the commanding officer, Captain Onslow. "He was only with us because he tried to get our sister ship, the Onslow, but someone had made a typing error."

"We reported our condition to the flotilla captain and he asked us if we were still seaworthy. We replied 'All damage is above water,' so he told us to go back to Leith.

"It took a whole day because we had to steer from aft as our bridge was demolished. We were a sitting duck but fortunately the Germans didn't see us."

They got back the evening of the next day. Ambulances came down to take off the dead and the dying, the crew and the dockyard maties cleared away all the debris; later some of the younger crew members went ashore to kick a football about.

"All of a sudden someone sang out 'Able Seaman Wainford wanted on the Quarterdeck!' My heart dropped to my boots because you're only wanted there when you're in trouble.

"I went along and there was the sub-lieutenant with mail in his hand, handing me a telegram. It said 'Are you all right reply prepaid Dad.' Without thinking, because I was so Navy, I showed it to the sub-lieutenant. You could trust them.

"He was only a boy who hadn't been at sea more than five minutes, he had a badly damaged ship, dead and dying men around, umpteen reports to make out, but he talked to me, found out I wasn't on duty, and said 'You can go ashore, get your wire to your Dad and be back aboard by 10.' I've never forgotten how kind he was.

"So I went to Edinburgh, got my telegram off and did what most of us would have done – had some fish and chips."

When the Battle of Jutland ended, the British had lost more ships. But the German High Seas Fleet never again risked an encounter – when ordered out of their safe harbour on a death-or-
glory mission in November 1918 their crews mutinied.

Nevertheless, they won the immediate propaganda battle, declaring in the days after Jutland such a great victory that British warships returning to their home ports were booed.

Wainford served right through the war, seeing the surrender of the German High Seas Fleet from the battleship George V. "But there was no question of being on deck cheering your heart out – everyone had to keep out of sight except in the course of duty.

"I managed to find a port and had a look through and I thought 'Look at them – all that lot, just giving in like that. They could have come out and had a last go."


 

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E.

WINIFRED WAINFORD
(nιe Powell)
1900-1932

My Mother: notes by Winifred McHenry, 2000.

I have very few memories of my mother but I do remember her as a quiet loving person and happy – laughter. Early mornings when, with my Dad, we set off from Brightlingsea to visit her family in Luton. She was very close to them, a large family.

Also when I was not well being wrapped up in an eiderdown by the kitchen range and held by her. She was a beautiful young woman as I know by her photographs, Dad loved her dearly.

Also I remember her in her last illness, bedridden and so ill Dad tried to look after her and me but she finally was taken to her family in Luton – where they looked after her.

I visited her just before she died with my Dad, she talked to me saying that when she was better she would dress up in a new green dress and everything would be right.

I was very young – five years old when she died but all the members of the Wainford family spoke so highly of her, gently, kind and a lovely girl altogether – she died in September 1932.

Before her marriage she worked in a "straw hat" factory – Luton in Bedfordshire was famous for them.

My Dad thought the dust from her work could have affected her lungs and started the T.B. illness.

She, according to Dad, was a lovely, graceful dancer and this is where he met her – at a dance for the ex-service men at a Rehabilitation centre. They married in 1923. They lived in Scotland, Wales and Essex.

One child (me – Winifred "Win").


 

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GEORGE WAINFORD JUNIOR
1940-1979


Notes by Winifred McHenry, 2000.


George was the first son of the second marriage of my Dad to Sarah Sutton – he married her in 1936, four years after my mother died.

George was born at the height of the Second World War in March 1940 – in Gravesend, Kent.

He was a strange little boy, given to being on his own a lot – a nice looking little fellow with blonde hair and a wide smile. I left Gravesend in 1940 and didn't return until 1944 My father was impatient with him but that was no fault of his or 'Georgie's'. "Georgie" lived a life where he really had to look out for himself a lot. However there was an affection for him from his Dad and Mother. This is a story too complicated to say too much about. George was employed as a docker at Tilbury.

In December 1979 he disappeared and the police were unable to help. Sadly his body was found in the canal at Gravesend in February 1980. A terribly sad business and an untimely end. My Dad had yet another tragedy in his life – it is no wonder he was a nervous, anxious man.

George was cremated at Maidstone having been identified by his brother, Peter, a dreadful time for him.

My Dad never got over this and used to speak of 'Georgie' fondly.

George junior had many good points about him, he loved dogs, keeping his flat tidy and organised and looking after his houseplants. He had girlfriends but his lifestyle was such that the relationships were short-lived.

A sad story.

No children.


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ALICE HARRISON
(nιe Wainford)
1905-1995

My Aunt Alice: notes by Winifred McHenry, 2000.

My earliest recollections of my Aunt Alice (my father's sister) was visiting her in London – Hackney and, being given her nurse's uniform to play with.

She was a nurse all her long life from her earliest years when, after a short space of domestic service, went to train as a nurse. She was 'in nursing' until she retired in her seventies.

Aunt Alice was a very kind, compassionate woman but like her mother, my grandmother, a 'no nonsense person' and although she cared passionately for her children, Michael and Christina, she again was a very cool person and kept her feelings to herself.

She was a very good nurse and it was her life. She was married in her twenties to a charge nurse who worked at the same hospital.

She continued working before and after having the children.

Aunt Alice was very fond of her mother and father – her mother in particular whom she called "MIG". She was very particular with cleanliness in the house, also which I remember as being very spartan. I stayed with her for a short time during the war and remember she was a stickler for a clean and tidy house. Balancing this, she was a great lover of gardening and loved flowers and beautiful gardens. She once said to me she would rather be in the garden than the house. She was a very good-looking young woman and retained her looks in her old age. She came to love family reunions in later life and was so pleased to see us all together. Aunt Alice was deeply compassionate being, without any 'sloppiness' at all, very like her mother, my grandmother.

She looked after herself until she died at the age of 90. Her immediate family was of great concern to her, in particular her daughter, who lost two of her children at a young age, Helen, two years old of meningitis and Laurence of cancer who was only about 10 years old.

She missed her grandchildren so much and felt deeply for her daughter.

At all times her son and daughter were her chief concern.

I gained much from being with her from time to time during my young life and in later years.

Children: Michael and Christina.


 

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VIOLET BOUGHTON
(nιe Wainford)
1909-1991

Auntie Vi: notes by Winifred McHenry, 2000.

I lived with my Grandma and Grandad from 1932-1937 and living there were my Auntie Vi and Uncle Arthur before they left to get married.

Auntie Vi was a jolly young woman who loved life, she always saw the funny side of life and I enjoyed her company – she worked as a drapers assistant at the Co-op in Hertford and I used to go into the shop and see her behind the counter. In those days all the assistants wore dark dresses and were expected to "keep up appearances". She loved to walk in the country with the dogs and I used to go with her at weekends. She wore a short belted camel jacket and carried a walking stick. She had cropped ("Eton crop") hair and was very smart in 30's clothes. She wore a little make-up and her favourite lipstick was "Tangee" which looked orange but changed colour to pink once applied. This was a puzzle to me, and also I liked to watch her get dressed up to go to meet her boyfriend/fiancι Jack Boughton whom she later married in 1936. Auntie Vi was great friends with her sister Alice and all through their long lives remained so.

I was taken with her on occasions to tea with (Uncle) Jack's mother and father who lived in Hertford. This was a great treat as we always had tinned fruit salad and bread and butter with it! No cream, but they were from Peterborough (then Northamptonshire) and I thought it was their 'way'!

I was bridesmaid at their wedding and Auntie Vi took me to London to buy "sparkly" shoes from Lilley & Skinners in Oxford Street. She made the visit to London, which was rare in those days, a real occasion.

She was lively and full of fun.
My Auntie Vi knitted a lot and taught me at a very early age.

During the Second War, after her mother (my Grandmother) died, she used the spare room to give a home to first an Austrian refugee and her little daughter, then to a German Jewish couple. They shared the larder, kitchen and bathroom. I was also 'evacuated' to live with the family and so we had a full house.

Vi, like her sister, had an innate kindness and put it into practice.

Always she had a sympathetic ear to the family troubles and was a good listener.

My Auntie Vi was a great friend to me in my early days with Grandma and Grandad, and after her marriage in their own home during the war.

She had an 'earthy' sense of humour, and enjoyed life to the full into her old age. Her family – son and daughter and grandchildren – were everything to her.

She died within five weeks of her husband Jack's death, aged 82.



 

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ARTHUR WAINFORD
born 5th December 1912

Uncle Arthur: notes by Winifred McHenry, 2000.

Arthur, as I now call him, is in his 88th year. I keep in touch with him every week by ringing him at his home with his daughter and son-in-law at Bexhill-on –Sea.
He was the other resident at my Grandma and Grandad's home when I went to live with them. He was about 19 years old and was like an older brother to me at that time.

He talks fondly of those days before his very varied life started far from his country home.

He was a musician, he played the piano, alto saxophone, and banjo – even a 'swannea whistle'. I was brought up with the dance tunes of the 30's – as he belonged to a band called the "Max Boyd Dance Band" and I often saw him dressed up in black with a bow tie ready to go off to pay for a dance.

He was a Co-op Insurance Agent and, when I first went to live with them, he worked as an assistant in the local library.

He used to get me to address envelopes for him when he had to send out reminders, etc. as an insurance agent. I loved doing this. He had a willing helper!

Also when he played the piano I was intrigued as to how he made sense of black dots on paper and 'read' them to be able to play the keyboard. My Grandmother, as I said before, made it possible for me to learn to play the piano.

Arthur had a girlfriend at this time, Muriel Anne Wall, and he later married her in 1937. He went from Insurance Agent to the Army when he was called up at the outbreak of war in 1939.

He went on to the Military Police and when demobbed, he joined the Control Commission in Germany – and later into the Diplomatic Service as Vice-Consul.

He worked in Germany, Finland, Turkey, Japan, and the United Arab Emirates and enjoyed his life abroad. When he retired he lived in Watford for a while then Lincolnshire and then Bexhill-
on-Sea where his wife Muriel (Anne as she wished to be called) died. She had, when living in Dubai, instructed and taught the Sheik's children.

Arthur sold up the family home in 1999 and after an extension was built, went to live with his daughter and her husband and is still there now.

A rather serious man, he takes life as something not to be too flippant about. He does have a sense of humour which shows up with hearty laughter but on the whole he does take life seriously.
He has a scientific questioning mind and at times when he talks to me he does sound quite scholarly. In his youth he was unusual in that he went to a Grammar School from an 'ordinary' background. Most boys at that time left school at 14 and went out to work.

Children: one daughter, Marion.


Arthur Wainford: Chronology

Born 5.12.1912.

Left Hertford GS aged 16: 1928/29, Matric standard.

Borough and County Library to 1933.

Herts. Constabulary 1933 to 1935 (uniform branch but also plain clothes nights).

Insurance official C.I.S. 1935 to 39.

Married Muriel Anne Walls 31st July 1937.

Marion Ann born 13th May 1937.

Suffolk Regiment 1940 to 41 (service in Gibraltar) : lance corporal.

CMP (Corps of Military Police) 1941 to 42 (including anti looting squad on south coast of England).

Transferred to SIB (Special Investigation Branch) 1942 to 46 : WOII.

North Africa Star (with 1st Army clasp: those who entered Bizerta so many hours after the Germans left – 9th May 1943).

Italy Star. War medal. Defence Medal. 1939-45 Star.

Officer i/c Special Investigation Section, Salonika January 1945 – February 1946.

Demobilised May 1946: assisted in furniture sales.

Control Commission September 1946 to 1952 : constable, then sub-inspector, and then inspector (within about a year).

Foreign Office : unestablished. 1952 to 54 officer i/c security guard, Berlin. 1954 to 57 security, Helsinki.

September 1956 top of first five candidates wishing to be considered for both Home Civil Service and Foreign Service and who took French/German.

1957 to 1960 Germany (Marion married David Bunce 6th August 1960 at St. Hubertus' Church, RAF Butzweilerhof : three daughters born 1961, 62 and 64).

1960 to 63 Turkey.

1963 to 65 Japan.

1965 to 68 England.

1969 to 1972 Dubai.

Since 1972 retired in England.

Anne died 5th March 1996.


 

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J.

TED MCHENRY
1925-1995

Ted married Winifred Wainford in 1948.

He worked in Sir Alexander Fleming's laboratory from 1942 to 1950.


The following article was published in the house journal of the Monopolies and Mergers Commission (where Ted's son Brian was working)
in September 1993.


RECOLLECTIONS OF SIR ALEXANDER FLEMING,
THE DISCOVERER OF PENICILLIN


The Wright Fleming Institute of St. Mary's Hospital, Paddington, was an autocracy, ruled by Sir Almroth Wright, known as 'The Old Man', an Irish giant in physique and intellect. His deputy, Sir Alexander Fleming, 'The Professor', was a Lowland Scot, taciturn, with a boxer's broken nose, a pair of blue eyes that seem to bore into you, and an addiction to cigarettes which meant that he often had three burning in his laboratory at the same time – on the bench, by the microscope, and at his desk.

I stumbled into the country house atmosphere cultivated by Wright where the wish of the 'uncles' (pathologists) was law and the sole function of the retainers (laboratory assistants) was to anticipate the wishes of the family and to see that they were met, and that a proper degree of comfort was in place at all times.

Wright had invented a system of measuring the power of the blood to conquer infection, which required many clever quills of glass to perform. These capillary pipettes I learned to make, with a hard-bitten senior technician to check my work. He kept a pocket of microcalipers and vernier gauges to control my standard of work. 'Pay attention, lad. It has to be just right for the Old Man.'

When penicillin reached the newspapers, the tedium of the day was relieved by Fleming coming into the preparation room. To free himself from the distraction of entertaining visitors he would say, 'Come and show this king some penicillin cultures' or 'There's a general here to see some of the fungus'. So I met the King of Greece and General Laycock, then Head of Combined Operations. There were others, for example I remember 'Flem' asking me to make up a weak penicillin solution which would be collected later. It was collected by a smart Royal Marine Sergeant for Mr. Churchill, who suffered from blepharitis, a crusting of the eyelids.

Wright had discovered and used anti-typhoid vaccine for the Army and had extended this treatment to cover a wide range of treatments. It was the variety of vaccines which paid for the operation of the Institute. 'Public School' vaccine, 'Mixed Anti-Catarrh', 'Whooping Cough', 'Cholera', they were all in the large refrigerator rooms. During the War there were calls for large amounts of vaccines and this meant that the culture media to grow the germs to make the vaccines were prepared in a media kitchen in scenes of Hogarthian bedlam augmented by Rabelaisian uproar and earthiness. This was inevitable where there were three to four hundredweights of cow beef to be cut up and minced and digested to prepare the basic nutrient agar and then sterilised in large autoclaves at 121.6°C and 15 pounds steam pressure (some things you never forget!) and then the Roux bottles were removed at speed with Dan the Media Man meeting our protests about burns and cuts with a laconic 'I did not feel a thing'. The finished articles were shipped upstairs to the Vaccine Room and we moved there after 6 p.m., on overtime, sterilising the used culture vessels. At 9 p.m. we stumbled out into Praed Street to shiver our way home in the blackout.

As darkness came the 'blackout' boards had to be fixed to all the laboratory windows. I had my share to do and I found Sir Almroth in his large armchair busy at his eternal editing of his 'Prologemena of the Logic which searches for Truth'. I was smoking by that time (everyone else smoked, seemingly all the time, so I started – it took me 38 years to break the habit) so I flicked my cigarette into the Old Man's waste paper bucket. Shortly afterwards the senior technician approached me, saying, 'Have a care, young Ted. You nearly set the Old Man alight. Luckily Flem saw the smoke and put out the fire. The Old Man didn't even notice.' Flem never mentioned the matter to me.

During the flying bomb attacks in 1944 there was a system of bomb watchers on the roof ringing alarm bells if there was imminent danger of attack. Of course there was confusion when the clouds obscured the bombs coming over and on one occasion the all clear was sounded ten seconds before the bomb fell next to St. Mary's. It was the only time that I saw a real demonstration of a scientific principle. As the glass in the sterile cabinet dissolved and then reformed I thought, 'Glass is a liquid of infinite viscosity'. I still think I was lucky. Shortly afterwards Flem was in New York to stimulate penicillin production and he told us later that he was very short with the natives for panicking when a US bomber crashed into a skyscraper. 'I told them my own staff always went on working during air raids'.

Our pay was negligible but Wright could obtain the top class men for £250 a year, so the lower grades earned much less. I do not remember anyone grumbling about conditions. If Flem wanted rats held then I held them, and learned as I went along.

The lessons I learned at the old 'Inoculation Department' as we old hands called the WFI lasted me for my working life. Frugality, making do, a search for an elegant technique and a smile when a 'Flem-trick' still worked the best of all. As usual Kipling got it right in 'A Truthful Song':

'Now there wasn't a trick in brick and stone
Which this young man hadn't seen or known;
Now there wasn't a tool from trowel to maul
But this young man could use them all."

So it was with Flem and Wright, and I am grateful to them.

 

 

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Alice Harrison

An address on the life of Alice Harrison given by her son Mike at her funeral at the church of St Nicholas within Compton, Surrey, on 18 December 1995


Some events can seem to change the very landscape; and my Mother's death is one.  Like a familiar hill she marked a territory.  At first one lived in its shelter, later moved away.  But always that presence was visible in the distance; a reminder of origins and of some fundamental certainties. 

Alice Wainford was born in Dublin in 1905, to George Wainford, a British Army Sergeant and his wife Alice Anne — the second of four children.  The family moved to Bengeo in Hertfordshire.  She wandered meadows, woods and riverbanks — in a countryside not yet touched by modern development.  She marvelled at nature.  She cared for her younger brother and sister. 

But she began to lose her hearing.  She often said that if you were deaf, people thought you were daft as well.  Perhaps in consequence, at the age of thirteen, she was sent 'into service' — and hated it. 

But I believe deafness was a formative influence.  Around the age of nineteen she entered the nursing school at Hackney Hospital in East London.  You can only guess at her persistence; at that time professional nurses came most often from well-to-do families.  The regime was tough; long hours went with unfamiliar bookwork and convent-like rules.  But she stuck at it. 

She also found time to form an attachment with another trainee nurse, John Harrison.  They both qualified, he in 1927 and she a year later, so gaining the professional status both desired so strongly. 

In 1929 they married; and the rule was that Alice had to resign her post.  I was born in 1936 and they moved from the city to a new house in a wooded, Green Belt suburb at Chingford. 

In 1944, my sister, Christina was born and only a matter of months later, the Chingford house was bombed.  As a family, we sat out a dreadful winter as evacuees in Staffordshire. 

Peace came, my mother dedicated herself to the children and home, but money was short.  She bought the first of many hearing aids and returned to nursing, first part-time then to a full-time post, again at Hackney, where she was appointed Sister. 

These were hard and sometimes strident times.  The pressures on the family were great.  But I do know that Alice never wavered in her principles, her dedication to her marriage, her children, their advancement and happiness.  She remained in touch with her wider family.  Her children married.  She became a grandmother. 

John retired in the late sixties, Alice a few years later.  They turned to the garden and the house.  But it was not to be a settled retirement.  He soon suffered a fatal accident.  Even more sadly, two of my sister's three children died in childhood.  These tragic events clouded Alice's life.  But her faith in the compassion of God never wavered for long.  With a stoicism that many held in awe, she set about making an independent life for herself.  Her simple and sometimes whimsical view of the world was an antidote to modern cynicism.  But it was backed by a clear respect for knowledge.  She read avidly, argued about religion; had views on politics, kept up with the news. 

In 1986 she moved to Farncombe.  Against all advice, she bought a house with a garden on a steep slope and a painfully infertile soil.  Wizened by arthritis, with a heart complaint and a minor cancer, she set about taming what she called 'the mountain'.  She dug, she composted, she constructed ramshackle supports for plants.  The garden thrived.  In the summer drought just past, her glut of fruit and vegetables supplied many.  Her lawn was gilded with cowslips.  She pressed copious old-fashioned hospitality on everyone. 

Always she looked forward with hope and belief.  In my mind's eye, I see her as she was only days ago, looking to the winter sky for migrating birds or signs of the weather or seasons to come.  She was always busy; 'must fight the enemy', she would say, looking at the clock before starting yet another chore.

  When I found her, collapsed in her kitchen, soon after her stroke, the house was, as always, spotless, organised, slightly Spartan.  Only days earlier she had been shopping for a washing machine.  When she bought it, she extended the guarantee. 

Foolish optimism? I think not.  There are clues in her papers and photographs.  A picture taken in 1924 shows her in the dark cape and hood of a probationer nurse; almost, but not quite, the image of a novice nun.  Hers was a life of vocation — on the triple track of family, nurture and faith.  She was funny, happy, obstinate, steadfast, loving to excess, sometimes difficult to know, driven by the idea that one should make the best of things.  And she truly believed there can be good in every situation and everyone. 

Now Alice's work is over; she has earned her rest.  On the landscape of my life, and many others, her mark remains, still visible — and inspiring — in the distance.

 

— o —

 

Now my daughter Anna is going to read two pieces from the collection of devotional books and writings we found amongst Alice's papers.  As always with things of importance, she had copied them in her own hand.  


The Prayer of Saint Ignatius    

Take and receive, Oh Lord, all my liberty, my memory, my understanding and my will. 

All that I have, all that I am, Thou hast given me, and I give it all back to Thee, to be governed by Thy Will. 

All I ask is Thy Grace and Thy Love. 

With these I am rich enough and I do not ask for anything else.

 

— o —

 

All is Well

by Canon Henry Scott Holland of St Paul's Cathedral  
 

Death is nothing at all
I have only slipped away into the next room
I am I and you are you
Whatever we were to each other
That we still are 

Call me by my old familiar name
Speak to me in the easy way which you always used
Put no difference into your tone 

Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow 

Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes we enjoyed together
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was
Let it be spoken without effect
Without the trace of a shadow on it 

Life means all that it ever meant
It is the same as it ever was
There is absolutely unbroken continuity 

Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
l am but waiting for you
For an interval
Somewhere very near
Just around the corner

All is well

 

 

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